Tuesday, November 17, 2009
The Birds and Bees.
Last night I went to a lecture about introducing this hot topic to our kids.
Ugh. Do I really have to?
The speaker was really great, covered the topic from every angle and answered some really difficult questions. I know you're going to have questions too.
Here's the main things I learned:
We need to stop calling 'it' her hoo hoo.
Six may be too early, a little late or right on time depending on your kid's curiosity levels, how much supervision you have of them and how much media they are exposed to.
Leaving a book on the topic in their room is not going to cut it. (Darn.)
It's not that I'm uncomfortable with the topic. What's not to love about talking about sex with a six year old?
What bothers me is what a knife edge the topic is.
You want to be honest and accurate but not tell too much too soon.
You want to stress privacy without creating shame.
You want to bring up the topic of safety but not burden with fear.
You also need to be ready to go from discussing sex to playing Candyland in a five minute time frame.
Yet again, I find myself wishing for a time warp where I can go to college, get a Bachelors in Parenting and reappear in my kids life as if I've never been away.
Now I just need to get her to not share her wealth of knowledge on the playground....