tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8069099783409052614.post7584438232210684407..comments2023-10-27T14:44:31.527-07:00Comments on The Parenting Myth: Little JoyScottish lasshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12529555944065107990noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8069099783409052614.post-16572695113164951202012-09-12T16:08:42.799-07:002012-09-12T16:08:42.799-07:00I beg to differ - Little Joy was right to be upset...I beg to differ - Little Joy was right to be upset by such an obvious and flagrant breaching of her clearly stated personal and physical boundaries. <br /><br />Your family clearly knew how important your Paddington paper was and that you kept it in your own private drawer. Not only your wishes but your private space was violated "to make you happy"! <br /><br />Little Joy's instincts were spot on. Sugar coating it with "but I did it all for you" is pure emotional manipulation and Little Joy knew it.<br /><br />I admire you for you ability as a grown up to see other points of view. <br /><br />As a therapist I see lots of folk unable to do this. <br /><br />Hopefully your family have also evolved to see that they also wronged you. <br /><br />A truly selfless & thoughtful act would have been for your sister to use HER own special paper to write your birthday message on.<br /><br />The lesson is that it is NEVER ok to breach someones personal boundaries, but that children make mistakes and we all learn from them and grow. We can reinterpret our childhoods for the rest of our lives and still never make sense of it.<br /><br />The best we can do is look at the adult relationships we have we these people now and assess if they're working for us or whether we are still stuck in the same family dramas. <br /><br />Grown up Joy sounds like a good person trying to come to terms with her past. Thanks for your sharing your story.<br /><br />I'm sure this will strike a chord with lots of your readers.<br /><br />Bless youJoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15186906946994296750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8069099783409052614.post-28436850069253743662012-09-06T06:36:22.055-07:002012-09-06T06:36:22.055-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.ergo baby carrierhttp://www.ergobabycarrieronsales.com/noreply@blogger.com